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012 Unlock Your Inner Strength: Overcoming Trauma and Transforming Lives with Colleen Aloian's Zero Impact Method

• Dimple Thakrar / Colleen Aloian • Season 1 • Episode 12

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Hey lovely listeners! Welcome back to another episode of Beyond the Words. I'm your host, Dimple Thakrar, and I'm thrilled to have you here with us today. We've got an inspiring conversation lined up that's bound to uplift your spirits and broaden your perspectives.

In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Colleen Aloian, a therapist with a heart of gold and a transformative approach to healing. We dive deep into her journey, from overcoming personal trauma to crafting the powerful Zero Impact Method. Get ready for a chat that explores the nuances of trauma, the magic of intuition, and the art of creating positive change.

Key Takeaways:

  • Trauma is not just about big events; it can be woven into the fabric of everyday experiences.
  • Colleen shares her unique Zero Impact Method, a tool for identifying and releasing the roots of trauma.
  • The power of intuition shines through in both our stories, showing the incredible impact of trusting your inner guide.
  • We discuss the transformative journey of turning negative beliefs into positive affirmations.
  • Trauma-informed care is a game-changer, creating safe spaces for healing and growth.

Tune in for laughter, insights, and a sprinkle of wisdom. This episode is like a warm hug for your soul!

Thanks for being part of the Beyond the Words family. Now, let's jump into the magic!

Colleen Aloian Bio and Resources:
Colleen Aloian is a teacher, healer and therapist. For over 10 years, Colleen has offered her services as a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. 

She has always been a pioneer in her field, supporting therapists in deepening their skills, providing training and creating programs to serve clients. 

In 2018, while working with the NY Army National Guard, Colleen received an achievement award for providing world class support, expertise, innovative ideas and dedication. 

In 2021, Colleen felt the calling to step into her true nature of being a healer and channel. With her deep understanding of how our past experiences create vast limitations on our brain, body, and energy, Colleen created her Zero Impact Method and a four-part framework for authentic success and true wealth. Colleen uses her gifts to see people as their whole, potential selves and to guide them in rapidly releasing any false identity while attuning to their inner light. Her clients feel born anew; they are returning home to what was always inside of them. Awakening their light and aligning with their divine purpose. 

Colleen is guiding women all over the world in rapidly releasing internal barriers, claiming their uniqueness, feeling liberation after liberation, elevating their frequency and magnetizing their desires with their own pure light. 

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Dimple Thakrar:

Hello, and welcome back to beyond the words with me Dimple Thakrar. Today I have the most incredible, beautiful soul of a woman with me, her heart is quite special, actually quite special. And her intuition is How would I describe this or intuition is quietly confident, very powerful. And her name is Colleen, Colleen, welcome to be on the words. I feel so blessed to have you here today. And I just want to let the viewers know and the listeners I keep saying viewers, listeners, viewers, all of you know where we met, we met at an incredible mastermind. Thanks to Melanie Ann Layer, and it's called the channel for a reason this mastermind because these women, as you'll see, there's a series of women coming down who were really called with their intuition to step into the unknown. And you were one of them. Welcome. Okay.

Unknown:

Thank you. Dimple Oh, my gosh, I'm already like tearing up. But it has been a blessing to be in a space with you for the last two years. Just to like, watch us both evolve over those two years and to be together has been such a blessing in my life. And I am so grateful for you. I didn't plan on starting like this, but you you ran a programme that I joined, called ladies go first. That programme for ever changed my life. And I just want to thank you for that. And for any of you listening. If this programme is still available, you need to take it.

Dimple Thakrar:

Thank you. Thank you, Colleen, I really appreciate that. It's so funny, isn't it? Because I actually re I did my ladies go first programme last week. Again, because I I have never taken the programme. I ran it like I delivered it but never took it right. And I'd forgotten that you'd actually gone through the programme. And it's wild because it up levelled my marriage again. It was like, Oh, this is really good. Suddenly have like this breakthrough moment that actually I'm really quite good at this. And I know that's been true for you as well. I've witnessed in you these massive leaps, right leaps of brain breakthroughs, where you've gone. Oh, actually, I really quite good at this right? And it's not that you don't know you are it's just that sometimes the universe provides you with evidence, like you've just reminded me, right. So tell us a little bit about your journey. Carly, where did you start your healing journey and then move it into supporting others because your your methodology is really quite unique to you. I love it. So please tell us the story.

Colleen Aloian:

Thank you. Ah, well, you know, I guess I could say that it's been a life time of a journey for me. When I was young, I went through a lot of trauma myself. And around the age of 15, I decided that I needed some guidance. And so I went to therapy. And after about the third session of therapy, I remember sitting in the chair, looking at this therapist, she had these like, spectacles on and she had her note pad and she's writing these things and kind of just looking at me. And I'm thinking to myself, like does this really help people? Like this is not helping me. I'm here. This is my third time being here. I don't know anything about this woman but I've divorced everything about myself. And I'm feeling no progress like this can't be it. And so I remember at that age, having my first like calling forward have like this inner knowing of this, isn't it and like you're gonna figure it out. And at first I was like, no, no, no, that can't be me. I can't be a counsellor because I have all of my own stuff like I can't hold anybody else with all of my own stuff. And so I decided to, I decided to be a teacher. And I completely like avoided the topic.

Dimple Thakrar:

But

Unknown:

it just kept coming back and coming back until my mom finally said, Colleen, this is just who you are. And so you need to do it. And I was like, okay, so then I went back for my master's, I was like, Okay, fine, like, I have to get my Master's anyways, as a teacher. So let's just get it in counselling. And I'll be a school counsellor, and I'll kind of integrate the two. Well, I mean, God had other plans. I eventually just became a therapist, working with adults, I started in the field of addictions, and then mental health. And then I created a co occurring programme, because everybody who has addiction has mental health. And so I created a programme to combine the two became a supervisor, I just kind of kept going up and up, until I finally opened up my own private practice. And what I noticed when working with clients is there was always this point that I couldn't get them past. It was like, I could give them all of the coping skills, I could talk to them week after week. And yet, there was some thing that they just couldn't have this breakthrough that they needed to just liberate themselves. And I was like, This is it like, this is why people aren't breaking through, there's something here that I need to figure out. And so it research upon research, I studied neuroscience, I started to study energy, like I started to just study all the things I could get my hands on to figure out what this thing was. And then when I finally figured it out, I started just testing different things with clients and seeing what worked and seeing what didn't, and finally created this zero impact method that I now have. That finally has been the thing that I was searching for my whole life that now I give to myself and work through with my clients.

Dimple Thakrar:

So good. There's a few things I want to touch in your story that really sprung out to me. And the first thing is that at such a young age, you knew what worked for you and what didn't, your intuition was really strong, right at such a young age. And yet, I remember doing this as well. And I know so many people that do, we push aside our intuition, and we deny it, because we it's almost like it's too good to be true. So this can't be this easy. So let's do it the regular normal way. And let's go into something that's deemed as professional or accepted by society. And so you went into teaching, I went into being a dietitian. And what's so interesting is that I love the way that your mom recognised who you were, and called you on and actually said, you know, calling this is who you are, and gifted you the opportunity to give yourself permission to be yourself. Falling. Right. So powerful, so powerful. And then for you to follow your path, follow what you knew, was right, and you work through all your experiences. And this is why I feel that you're so powerful, is that the work that you do you do as a result of wanting to find a solution for you first. Right? You

Unknown:

hold within ourselves, there's no way that we can show up for other people. And I've tried it right, like when I was a young therapist, just starting out, still carrying my own stuff. You know, I was trying to show it for other people. But then things inside of me were getting triggered that were then impacting how I could help somebody else or guide somebody else. And it wasn't. That's why we're always like, therapists need therapy before they become a therapist.

Dimple Thakrar:

Yes. And I love the way that I you know, I love the way that you said that therapists need therapy before they can become a therapist. And also I believe that there's always value in where you're at in that moment. I don't believe you can ever be fully healed because otherwise, what else you working on? Where else is the growth how Can we compound the complete list? Three? And that's the journey in itself.

Unknown:

Yeah, that's how we get to the next level. Right? Like, I was on a call with our other channel, sister and niece the other day. And she said to me something so deep, she said, Eileen, the darkness is sacred to the darkness, you won't see the light. And so it's like every level of ascension that we go towards. It's like, we think we're done with the healing. And then yet another thing, reveal reveals itself, right? Because we need the darkness, right. But as we grow and evolve, it doesn't have to be so dark every time. You know, I used to cry in the bathroom floor once a month. Now I'm crying on the bathroom floor, like once every other month, right? Like, it gets to get easier, because we get to process faster, because the more we know, the quicker it gets to go. Right.

Dimple Thakrar:

And then also, the darkness can also be our friend, when we know that the darkness is needed there for the contrast, so that we can witness the light. Because without the darkness, we can't witness light. So what if we could be in gratitude of it? And what if we could enjoy the praying on the floor in the bathroom? Knowing that this is a process for you to release? And not judge? You know? Yes, yes.

Unknown:

Now when I go through it, my inner being is like it's coming. Yes. mm in the darkness, but um, like something good is coming. I feel what's on the other side of it as I'm working through it. Right,

Dimple Thakrar:

right. And that's all part of the ascension process. Tell us a little bit about how your zero method helps people work through the darkness in order for them to enjoy the light.

Unknown:

So the first thing that I realised is that, well, I had to understand trauma. And I'll be honest, my master's degree did not prepare me for trauma. Like I did not realise the depths of what it actually is from the programme that I went through. This is huge. I don't think many of us whether we're coaches, or healers, or therapists, really get it sometimes. And so for me, I definitely didn't. And so now that I understand that trauma is really not just these big events, but also these really tiny, tiny things that we might have even forgotten about, right? Like anything that is still negatively affecting your energy today, anything that when you still think about it bothers you, that's actually a trauma. And what happens is that as we're growing up, these life experiences happen. And then we make it mean something about us, for example, I'm not good enough, I don't belong, I'm not smart enough. Or we start comparing ourselves to other people, right. And we take everything. So personally, instead of realising that we are our own person, and that person is their own person. And we both get to have our own experiences, right? We make it mean something about us instead. So I

Dimple Thakrar:

just wanted to just want to emphasise to the listeners at this point, something you said, so really quite profound, that often we think of trauma as this huge thing. And a really significant thing that can and actually doesn't have to be right. It can be something so small that somebody said to you once that you then put a meaning to write, right? It's really important that that lands because and I'll give you an example in my life where there was one conversation where my sister and my husband that is now when I was 13, teased me and called me fats. Like, like I was fat, right? That one sentence took me to a place of anorexia where I nearly lost my life, that one sentence. Now that is a traumatic situation for me, because I internalised it. And so this is why I wanted to make it really clear that it can be something as small as that, and how catastrophic can we internalise it like nobody else internalised it in that way? Please continue because it's a real I want people to understand that your work is about releasing every single piece of trauma that we all or have experiences it can be the tiniest, flippant remark from somebody that is important to. Right, right. Yeah,

Unknown:

everybody has it. It's unavoidable. We all get it. And the thing is, it's not even. Sometimes you don't even have to say anything, right? Like I had a client once. And she's like, I don't know why I can't pull my chair up to the table. Like, I don't know why sisterhood is an issue for me. I don't know why I have this wound here. And as we followed it back, she remembered the time she didn't get invited to the birthday party. So that somebody's not saying something to you. Right? Then results in this? Am I good enough? Do I not belong? Do people not like me? Right? Like taking them? Silly. If she had no idea if there was a budget, or how you allowed to be invited because of the parent, you know, like, there's so many circumstances where we take everything personally and make it

Dimple Thakrar:

at us. Right? Yes, yes. So

Unknown:

this is the first part is really identifying, like, where we're stuck, and what we're making it mean about us because we are feeling stuck in this thing. Right. And then also understanding that trauma isn't just the way that we're thinking about something, but the way that we're feeling about something, right, Dr. Joe explains it so perfectly. When he talks about, we go through these past experiences, and we create a certain thought, and then we create the certain emotion, and then we keep living in the thought and living in the emotion. And this is why we keep ourselves stuck. This is trauma. Right? That's what Dr. Jones actually talking about when he says those things. And this is why people have a hard time evolving, because we're seeing stuck in these past experiences. And so the work that I do with people is we identify the thing that happened to us the root cause, right? Like when people come to me, and they're saying, Oh, I have an issue. I don't know, showing up online or my business, or like, well, that's not actually the issue, right? The root cause is you're not showing up online, because this thing happened as a past experience of yours. And this is what you made it mean. And so every time you go to show up, this thing's being triggered, subconsciously, you're not aware of that, right? So we identify the root cause of what's actually creating the current issue. And we clear that out. And this is why it's called the zero impact method is because whatever it is bothering you at between zero and 10, when you show up, it goes to zero, when we're done. So this isn't just no longer bothers you at all, when you think about it. The negative belief that you're holding about yourself that's associated with it, we, we get rid of the negative belief and we replace it with a positive belief. So it starts to help you gain more confidence in yourself and who you are, your self esteem starts to go up. And again, like we're realising that we're not taking these things personally anymore, and it helps us to stand in our truth. And in our own sovereign being by doing that. And the last part is we hold trauma in our body. So if I asked you to think about what you mentioned earlier with that comment that that person made, right, like, you might feel it in your gut, or you might feel it in your shoulders or wherever you're feeling it because the trauma still lives in the body so the last part is really that like energetic clearing of trauma that still stuck in your body. So it's really like a full Brain Body Soul type of liberation experience.

Dimple Thakrar:

It's like a wash out the shit out of you all the ways. Yeah, that's the kind of baby Jack got it was like to zero impact method is like a washer. Like let's the washer wash you are sorry, I get these random images like. Okay, so, yeah. Wow. And so how long would the session be? How light? How quickly? Could somebody deal with a trauma? That's particularly a subconscious one? Yeah, it

Unknown:

typically takes under an hour. Yeah. So good. I depends on you know, your willingness to be done with it and to let it go. Right, like some people hold on to the story, because I just had one woman say to me, who am I without the story? And my response to her was, you're free, right? Like, you actually get to free yourself from that past and now you get to stay into who you are meant to be here, right? So you really have to be willing and ready to let go of this experience that you're holding on to. And the more someone's ready to let go, the quicker we get to process through it. I mean, I've had sessions that lasts a full hour, and I've had sessions and are done in five minutes, it really just depends.

Dimple Thakrar:

So good, so powerful. And so is this a methodology that you teach others? Is their impact? Method? Or is this?

Unknown:

I've had this question several times. And I really thought about it. And it's hard for me because part of it, there is like, there's, there's certain things that I do consecutively with every client, that's the same every time, but it's really only the first five minutes. And then the rest of it is very much guided by intuition. Part of it, I'll be honest, is guided by the Divine like, I will get clairvoyant images of like what we're supposed to do next. And at first, I questioned them, and now I just go with them. And that's what helps to speed up the process is because I know that I am a channel, I understand that I'm here to help heal and raise consciousness. And so I know the Divine is working through me. And so I don't know how to teach that part of it. Right. And so that's why it's hard. Like, there's things that I can teach. And then there's other things where like, it happens through me. So that part I'm unsure of right now. I do teach trauma informed care, okay, something that we can all learn is how to be trauma informed, so that we don't accidentally trigger our clients or so that we can hold a sacred space and make people feel safe. And this is so good. For us, as you know, healers, and mentors and coaches, because people will feel safe with us, they will stay in our containers longer, they'll feel like they're being held while they're processing through the things, right. So I teach about being trauma informed. And then I also, I have a level one in level two. And then level two is about, you know, the tools and the techniques and some of that, that you can use to help a client process through some things. And finding is super helpful for coaches right now.

Dimple Thakrar:

That's so good. So you teach how to be trauma informed, which is so powerful, because very few of us are trauma informed, right? So. And I love that and I really understand how you feel because it's my my methodologies that I use, I can teach certain parts of it, because certain parts are rinse and repeat. And then it's your intuition and your channelling. Because then I often get asked, Well, how did you know to say that? Well, how did you like know to do that? Or how did like just then when I got this image of a washer, right, literally cleansing, right? Body, mind and soul, it is very much about trusting your channel. And there is a process through that as well, I have noticed that you do have the channel all the time, but no one to trust it fully is when you're the most powerful. Right when you don't question it. So that itself is a gem. Right? It's trusting in the network? Because some of the things that come through are really weird. Uh huh.

Unknown:

Yeah. I don't know what's happening. But I'm just telling you. Right? This makes no sense. But when I tell my client, they're like, oh, my gosh, that makes total sense. I'm like, for you, you do that?

Dimple Thakrar:

That's right. That's right. All the time. All the time. I love that. So the next question that's coming through and again, this whole podcast is channelled I once got asked actually there, somebody was listening, like, Do you know how do you plan out your podcast and your subjects and all that? And today, I've recorded I think it was 30 odd, solo. Podcasts episodes. Right. And I was like, that's a really interesting question because I don't plan anything Joe and I, my producer and I, we get on, like few minutes before and we just, I'll say to her, I'm not sure what's coming through. She might ask me a question and then boom, something comes through. We'll have a conversation. And so that's how we've done it. And so it's that trusting of your channel right being a Open to know that the Divine is working through you are guided, they are guided to know exactly what will come through. Right. So there's something that cut a question that as you were talking about teaching other therapists and healers to be trauma informed. And I know you're aware that I had a massive intervention with Tony Robbins. And it was a very, could have been a very traumatic experience. Had I not have had an intuition of knowing that I feel safe with this man, right, that his intention is honourable, even though it was very fierce in the way that he managed my whole intervention. So I'm just curious as what your thoughts are on that, and your intuition on that in terms of because it sparked my attention. You know, when you said some therapists can inadvertedly cause trauma. I'm just curious as to what your intuition is. thinks about. You remember the story? Right?

Unknown:

Thanks. Can I say parts that I remembers that okay. Yes, of course, there's

Dimple Thakrar:

a whole night, there's a whole podcast on the story. So yeah, there's a whole

Unknown:

what I remember is it was between like you and your husband's relationship and how you were showing up to the right.

Dimple Thakrar:

That's right. That's right. And Tony had come up in the screaming at me and at all came up to protect me. And for a lot of people that would seem like this guy's attacking me, because it was very fierce in the way we came up in the way he told me was dealing with meat. Right. So it just I don't know why. But this whole thing, so I'm just curious on your take on how you would see that, would that be trauma? Or would that be, you know, what's the diff differential between it being trauma, because a lot of people would have perceived that as trauma. In fact, it's never been aired anywhere, because it's so fierce. Like Tommy's team has never had it anyway. So because of what other people might think it to be. Yeah.

Unknown:

So here's my response to this trauma happens because of the meaning we assigned to it. Okay. Right. And so we have our soul, right, we have our energy being and our soul. You know, this, it's not judging what's happening. It's just experiencing the creation that's happening, right. It's our human. It's our brain that wants to create the story. Right? And so if you're, I mean, I'm assuming that your relationship with Tony, you went into that experience, knowing who Tony was, right? You went into that experience looking for change? Yes. So for you, already feeling these things and thinking these things, you already kind of felt safe with Tony, and you knew that this experience was for your evolution, and growth? And having your husband come actually strengthened your relationship? Because you knew he was there for you? Yeah, are you? Right? Yeah, all of this happened for you. And you could see that you could see the inner workings of it all. And you had your intuition with it. And you knew that you were being so divinely supported in that moment. And that's why you didn't take it as trauma. Just so on the other hand, you didn't go into that experience looking for this big change. If you went into the experience thinking, Tony Robbins is a huge man, I didn't realise how huge he was. That's kind of scary. It's really loud. That's kind of triggering. I don't know that I really want to be here. Something's telling me that I should be here. Well, if I really want to, and then this interaction happen, that you might have assigned a meaning to it. I'm not safe. Something's wrong with me, right? Like anything like that you can do it, and then assigning that meaning to it creates the trauma.

Dimple Thakrar:

Got it so beautifully explained. This is such a important piece for the audience. It's so important and profound, and I'll tell you why. Because there will be times in your life and other people will tell you, you should have been traumatised by that, or that should have impacted you. Or if that was me, I don't know how you dealt with it in that way, right. And the reason we see things differently is because of the stories we tell ourselves, the meaning we put on it. And therefore, how important it is, if you are a coach or therapist, a healer, to build that know, like, and trust with your clients first. Before you can use that kind of methodology that Tony used with me, right? Right. Huge piece that because how do you not have had built that know, like, and trust with me, I wouldn't have trusted his intention. And I wouldn't have seen him as honourable which I did the whole way through. It was like this duality feeling of my soul felt safe. And my human was like this is for the greater good of everyone. So I trust you. And it's painful. Right, right. But there were people in the audience afterwards that said, how the hell that was so wrong of him to do that. Now, now, right, you see that? You

Unknown:

see how they made it mean something about that? So Mike laid, feel safe in the moment. And then they made it mean something about him. Right? Is something wrong? Right.

Dimple Thakrar:

So we can't do this

Unknown:

and all the coaching spaces? If we're not, you know, if as the coach, we're not trauma informed to. To hold these conversations.

Dimple Thakrar:

Yeah, yeah. Yeah. And, and to hold somebody in trigger, right to hold somebody who is triggered, and not take it personally. But to actually just support them through that is huge. So huge things right. Totally held me through that trigger. Right, the whole time. So, Colleen, thank you so much for your wisdom, thank you so much for the way you so eloquently, interpret and describe such a complex thing. As trauma. Such a complex thing is the relationship between a client and a healer, therapist counsellor, whatever the title, you want to call yourself, when you're at whoever you are, really put the ownership back on the client, to hold their own space and hold their own story and knowingness of what's helpful for them and what's not what they can take as theirs and what they can, just like I did with what I took was mine and left him with his right. So is there anything that he that you are currently offering that you would love people to know about? Because I would love many people to experience you and where they can get ahold of you. As we almost complete? Yes. Um,

Unknown:

so on my website, Kalyan, elian.com, you'll see different offers that I have to work with me one on one, you'll see some smaller offers, I have one that's $44 just on how our trauma impacts our relationships. Now that we know everybody is carrying trauma, and how to more effectively communicate with your partner. So I have little things like that on there. And you can find me at Halima loin on Instagram or on Facebook, you can see more offers in my link tree on those places. And coming up in December, I am holding my level one, trauma informed care. And then in January, we'll be doing level two. And level one is more about, you know, what is trauma, how do we help space, things like that. And then level two is more of some tips, tricks, tools to help your client when they're in it.

Dimple Thakrar:

Love it. Thank you. Thank you so much today you've really given us a beautiful taste of who you are and what therapists can expect to learn from so I have one last final question that I ask all my guests very well the question is before because I know you can use your intuition and that's what I'm after. So if that is, you know, is that one piece of advice or

Unknown:

Wisdom that either you have been gifted or you would like to gift the audience today. That goes beyond the words, my favourite thing to ask people, or even myself, what's been so transformative for myself and now for others is when I say, What am I making it mean about me? Right? What story am I creating about this? Or like, what story am I living in? That's creating me making it means something about me.

Dimple Thakrar:

Does that make sense? Yes, yes. Yes. So rather than articulating that actually going inwards and going, what am I making this about me? What is the story? I'm creating the grounding? And therefore what is the truth? Right? Love that. Often

Unknown:

times, it's not the reality. But we're making it reality of the situation. So

Dimple Thakrar:

powerful. How many times how many times? Yeah. Thank you so much for today. Thank you for your time. You for

Unknown:

having me as a guest on your podcast. This was a great experience. And I hope that we were able to help some people in your audience today.

Dimple Thakrar:

So absolutely. I have no doubt, zero doubt. But today, we are impacting lives. So together. Thank you. So with that said, audience, thank you so much for joining us today. It's been an honour and privilege to serve you with the wisdom that Colleen shared with you please reach out to her and all her bio and everything is available in the show notes as is all my information on where to find my ladies go first or whatever it is you're after. All right. Take care. God Bless.

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