059 Unlocking Self-Love and Authenticity: A Journey with Photographer Paige Harker

Hello everyone, and welcome back to Beyond the Words with me, Dimple Thakrar. Today, I am thrilled to introduce a truly magical guest, Paige Harker. I met Paige in Tulum, and her presence, both in person and behind the camera, is simply extraordinary. This episode is filled with heartfelt exchanges, profound insights, and the beautiful essence that Paige brings to her work and life. Let’s dive into this enriching conversation.

Episode Summary: In this episode, we have the pleasure of conversing with Paige Harker, a distinguished photographer whose journey and work are nothing short of inspiring. We explore Paige’s path to self-love, the challenges she faced, and how she has harnessed her experiences to empower herself and others. Paige shares intimate details about her battles with body image, the transformative power of intentional photography, and the profound connection between self-image and success. This conversation delves deep into themes of self-discovery, manifestation, and the importance of owning one's story.

Key Takeaways:

1. Embrace Authenticity: Paige’s journey underscores the importance of being true to oneself. She discusses how embracing her unique style and rejecting societal norms has been pivotal in her career and personal growth.
2. Intentional Photography: Photography, for Paige, is more than capturing images; it's about creating a safe space for her subjects to express their true selves. This approach has led to deeply meaningful and transformative experiences for those she photographs.
3. The Power of Self-Love: Paige opens up about her struggles with body image and how self-love has been a painful yet profound journey. She emphasizes that true beauty and confidence come from within.
4. Manifestation and Energetics: Discussing her experiences with manifestation, Paige explains how setting clear intentions and maintaining high self-image have been crucial in achieving her goals. Her belief in the power of energetics over mere strategy is a significant highlight.
5. Holistic Approach to Success: The episode also explores how success in life is interconnected across different areas. Paige and Dimple discuss how balance and self-care are essential for achieving true fulfillment, not just in business but in all aspects of life.
6. Facing Fears: A significant part of Paige's journey involves confronting her fears, such as traveling alone. This has taught her resilience and the importance of being comfortable in one’s own company.
7. Energetic Standards: Paige shares how maintaining high standards in all areas of life is key to success. This holistic approach ensures that one’s professional achievements are aligned with personal well-being and fulfillment.
8. Intuition and Body Wisdom: The conversation highlights the importance of listening to one's body and intuition. Paige's practice of asking her body what it needs has been a transformative tool for her

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Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction and Welcome
• 2:34 Meeting Paige Harker
• 4:13 First Impressions and Tulum Experience
• 5:41 Embracing Unique Identities
• 6:59 Manifestation and Intentional Photography
• 8:19 Body Image and Self-Love Journey
• 18:48 Journey to Content Creation and Personal Branding
• 30:15 Energetics and Self-Image
• 39:02 Traveling Alone and Personal Growth
• 47:27 Honoring the Body and Intuition

Transcript

Beyond the Words EP59

[00:00:00] Dimple Thakrar: Hello and welcome back to Beyond the Words with me Dimple Thakrar your today. I have got the most divinely beautiful woman for us today, inside and out divinely beautiful. I met this woman in the most magical place in Tulum and I had no idea of the depths and the experience of life. This woman had when I met her and it was only through a beautiful exchange behind a lens that I realized this woman is pretty magical.

[00:00:48] Dimple Thakrar: So without further ado, I would love to introduce you to Paige. Paige Harker. Welcome. Welcome. for having me. 

[00:00:58] Paige Harker: That is the most angelic, beautiful introduction I have ever had. 

[00:01:04] Dimple Thakrar: Oh. It comes from the heart and I always introduce people in a way that I want the audience to know how we met and how special each meeting is with my guests because you're all unique and you touch my heart and leave codes in me in such a profound way, right?

[00:01:26] Dimple Thakrar: And that, that for me is what matters because This podcast is called Beyond the Words for a reason. It's how do we connect in a way that we can't describe with words. Yes. I would love for you Paige today if you wouldn't mind. Let me start with Paige was the photographer that we had for our channel retreat that 19 of us decided to do.

[00:01:54] Dimple Thakrar: It's a mastermind that I was part of and so the first time I met Paige was witnessing her at work really at work. I love the way it's work, right? She arrived, she's doing the photo shoot for many of us and it wasn't my turn for my shoot and I'm glad it wasn't because I got to witness you in your magic and ladies and gentlemen, I want you to picture this scene, right?

[00:02:27] Dimple Thakrar: We're in this incredible rustic, retreat like place. I can't even describe it. It's like a, it was a house in Tulum on the beach, in the beach, on it was in the rocks it was very rustic and in walks this photographer. Now, my impression of a photographer is not Paige, right? Picture this bronze goddess.

[00:02:59] Dimple Thakrar: Like in a bikini with a throw over like the hottest ass on the planet. . And like just and array of like light that emanates from you and you were just. with this huge lens and you've got this tiny body and like how you are navigating this like heavy huge piece of equipment this is what's going on in my mind as i'm watching it and i'm going who is this goddess like what is happening this is like some kind of out of body experience i'm having as i'm watching you Like dance with the way you use your body To get these images the angles that she was navigating herself with, it was wild!

[00:03:50] Dimple Thakrar: I'm like, and this is, she wears to work! It's really funny because when 

[00:03:55] Paige Harker: we get into limiting beliefs and the things that people project onto us, Me and the way I dress is one of those things that people told me you'll never be taken seriously. If you're going to wear a bikini on your Instagram like that, like high ticket, women that are like very official, they're not going to take you seriously.

[00:04:15] Paige Harker: And it's just so interesting to see how the one thing that they said is something I totally own as a part of my image. I 

[00:04:25] Dimple Thakrar: loved it. I was like. This woman is rushing it. Good for her. Not only is she rocking it, she's using it to her full advantage. Good for her. I was inspired by it. I was and curious.

[00:04:41] Dimple Thakrar: Really I was having like a surreal moment. It was what's going on This is so Who found her? And then I realized it was Kyra who found you. And I was like, Oh, all my friends know. There's a connection. Yeah. 

[00:04:58] Paige Harker: Yeah. That that weekend really, behind the scenes, that changed a lot for me, like being in the field of such a potent group, a group that, was on the, Is on the path of becoming the highest version of themself.

[00:05:13] Paige Harker: I really had, and I remember I created a reel after I did that about. What an aha moment for me that was because six months prior to doing something like that, I claimed that in the universe. I said, this is the type of woman I want to be available to create with. I'm no longer available for this. I want to just be available for this type of intentional photography.

[00:05:35] Paige Harker: And the way that unfolded. Like capturing some of you in the most intimate moments in the way that I did was truly a manifestation brought to life. That was, I wanted to go deeper with what I was doing. I didn't just want to take photos and that was like behind the scenes. That was a pivotal moment for me. 

[00:05:54] Dimple Thakrar: Huge. Just to put it before we go into your story, just to complete this piece, to put this into context, I have had Not anymore. I have had a continual battle with the, my body, my external version of me from as long as I can remember, from being a teenager, right? And so for me to expose my full body in front of somebody else that isn't my beloved was huge, like huge piece.

[00:06:33] Dimple Thakrar: And I felt so comfortable with you to do a full on nude photo shoot with you was really quite profound and says a lot about you and your frequency and your intentionality to provide not only a safe space, but a space for us to fully express who we are, fully. And images that you captured for me are iconic images for me.

[00:07:06] Dimple Thakrar: In every aspect. The image on the rocks with the feathers, the image of me completely nude with the flower in my headlight. Just the rarity of that, for me, just captures how the work that you put in order to achieve that manifestation. Because the women there were six, seven figure earners, like we know our, we know who we are.

[00:07:37] Paige Harker: It was a powerful energetic field it was a potent group there with very high energy. Yeah. 

[00:07:44] Dimple Thakrar: Yes. Yeah. And you've helped us and expanded us. 

[00:07:49] Paige Harker: Thank you. Thank you. It's wild when you asked me to do this podcast in that exact moment, actually, that photo of you with the flower was on, it came onto my, it came onto my feed, like on my album feed, that photo of you.

[00:08:04] Paige Harker: And I was like, what divine timing to my, for my phone to reflect this photo back to me in this exact moment. And I think that's what people don't really understand about a photo shoot is there is an energy going on. There's an energy of you matching the person, meeting the person, then also being able to raise them into a frequency to allow them to feel like.

[00:08:25] Paige Harker: You can't feel the way that safety and that worthy and that divinity within yourself looking at that photo, had you not felt it in that moment. And so that gets to be the potency of when you can raise someone's frequency during a photo shoot or allow them to move into something. They will always look back at that photo and remember what that felt like.

[00:08:46] Dimple Thakrar: Yes. And the codes in that image that transmuted to the viewer of that image. Yes. 

[00:08:54] Paige Harker: Yes. Absolutely. 

[00:08:55] Dimple Thakrar: Even the image of me on the rocks in a bikini top, I would never in a million years have done that. Ever. And that image, for me, I am the proudest of. I am the proudest of.

[00:09:13] Dimple Thakrar: Because it was every time I see it, it's a moment of me claiming my body. 

[00:09:18] Paige Harker: Yes. Yes. And it's a moment of you collapsing the link to you in that old self that believed whatever it was about the body. It's like new identity shifts in and that image represents that. 

[00:09:31] Dimple Thakrar: Yes. And the fact that you come in with those key codes of absolutely owning your body.

[00:09:40] Paige Harker: And I think though the deepest part of that is everything that every woman stands for in the insecurities she feels when she's being photographed. I see it in her because it's I can only move a woman out of that or see what she has felt in that moment and bring her out of it because I have been like my journey to self love and my journey to falling into love with my body has been probably the most painful, most profound thing I've ever moved through.

[00:10:08] Paige Harker: And I think that in those moments, Deepest pains is where our purpose actually lies. And so I can only see that in a woman and move her through that because I have went through the most excruciating journey with my own version of self love. 

[00:10:23] Dimple Thakrar: Would you care to share that with us? Yeah, 

[00:10:26] Paige Harker: absolutely. It's a story.

[00:10:29] Paige Harker: Definitely something I own now, but I would say that I went through all of my 20s. Dieting, fasting all day, binging at night doing all of these things. I was even at a point once where I would carry around many little alcohol bottles because alcohol was something that would suppress my diet. So I felt like if I just had a few drinks through the day, I would not eat.

[00:10:55] Paige Harker: And I used to do these It's very self sabotaging things just to maintain a certain weight because I felt like every bit of my identity was evolved around the size of my body. And actually it was Dr. Joe and going into his meditation. So this is quite recent. I would say within the past three years, I've found myself.

[00:11:15] Paige Harker: Fully healed this. And this is where my journey into what I do now with my work represents that, but I felt like every bit of my worth was representative around my body. And I know so many women resonate with that because we have been conditioned to think that our price and our value is a representation of how thin or how like beautiful we are physically.

[00:11:42] Paige Harker: Yeah, I feel like that was just something I always felt like from a very young age, was my worth. Was how thin I was. 

[00:11:51] Dimple Thakrar: Wow, and this is fascinating. For those of you who know Paige and have seen her work and seen that a lot of your work is, of your, you in a bikini, they would never have guessed that, they would never have guessed that looking at you.

[00:12:09] Dimple Thakrar: Yeah. This idea that everybody who has the perfect toned lean body is born that way has never, never had hang ups, not true. No. It's true. No. We all have a journey. And. It, I have been judged in the past for the way I look. I have been judged in the past for the size of my body. I have judged myself for the size of my body, and it was only through the menopause that my body changed and it got bigger than what it's ever been.

[00:12:44] Dimple Thakrar: And again, that was another evolution of me, right? Claiming that, claiming the curves, claiming the, what it meant. Even, even the piece on letting my hair go grey. 

[00:13:00] Paige Harker: It looks amazing, by the way. 

[00:13:02] Dimple Thakrar: Thank you. Thank you. And this is a fascinating thing that I hid behind the colour for 20 years.

[00:13:12] Dimple Thakrar: Thinking that how can I be an old lady with gray hair and yet the more we claim ourselves the more beauty and confidence and compliments I get from it. 

[00:13:26] Paige Harker: Yes. Yes. Because I think 

[00:13:28] Dimple Thakrar: It doesn't define us. No. 

[00:13:31] Paige Harker: No. And I think there is something extremely magnetic about a person. That just owns every bit of themselves, and they're in it, and they've they have moved through even the things they, they once didn't accept, but now they're like, this is actually all of me, and I am comfortable in all of it, and that person is a fearless being, that person is someone you can't You cannot mold.

[00:13:58] Paige Harker: They are so comfortable in their being and something about a person like that is extremely magnetic. 

[00:14:04] Dimple Thakrar: And I see that in you. I see that in you. Yeah. Your work, your imagery, the way that you claim who you are. I remember just recently looking at one of your reels and I'd love you to go deeper into this of how you were told that you were You'd never be able to get a real job without a degree, without going to university.

[00:14:27] Dimple Thakrar: Can you walk us through? That journey. Yeah. 

[00:14:33] Paige Harker: And to say onto that, I even had my ex partner would tell me, don't ever admit that online. This part about you not finishing high school, don't ever admit that online. People won't take you seriously. People We'll look at you a certain way.

[00:14:47] Paige Harker: They won't take, they won't want to work with you if they know that you're not educated at the system, at the levels in the system. And now I have actually realized this is a very significant part of my journey, because if I'm going to really own every bit of me, that is a part of my story. And I think that when we own the things that we're the most shamed about.

[00:15:09] Paige Harker: They actually become our secret weapons. They become these like potent little pieces of us that it's a part of the hero's journey of this. Other people might be ashamed about this, but when I own this, I take back the power. I take back the power of someone trying to shame me because I'm owning it, right?

[00:15:32] Paige Harker: Yes. 

[00:15:33] Dimple Thakrar: That's the magnetic piece. Yes. People can see that in themselves and go, Oh, she gets me. 

[00:15:39] Paige Harker: Yes. And I think it's like, for one thing for people to say, Oh, I'm doing it as a strategy. And it's another thing for someone to really say, no I really am owning it. And That journey I remember when, all my teachers and even my parents would say you're, what are you going to do?

[00:15:56] Paige Harker: And, I'm so glad that we've grown up in an age now where there's such an access to information. I think that we now live in a time where, it's like Dr. Joe says, it's not a time where you can say, I like it's enough to know you got to know how and there's enough access to information now where you really can get figure out anything if you want.

[00:16:18] Paige Harker: And so this is the beauty about deciding in a direction and having an intention. Your access to figure out how is limitless. 

[00:16:27] Dimple Thakrar: Truly. So true. So true. And I just want to side note for those of you who aren't familiar with Dr. Joe, we're talking about Dr. Joe Dispenza and his work that both Paige and I follow deeply.

[00:16:41] Dimple Thakrar: So go check out his work if that's what you're thinking. Who is Dr. Joe? Yes. So you didn't have a formal education. No. And so how did you come to, tell us what you do now and the journey of getting there. Okay. 

[00:17:02] Paige Harker: So when I was serving and in Canada and America, we work on a tip system so you can make pretty good tips and I was in a great position at this one restaurant.

[00:17:13] Paige Harker: They would let me go for 4 months. I could go travel. I could come back. I could work. So I would save up all this money and I would go on these long trips. I would, I went to Australia for a year and a half and then I went to Southeast Asia. I traveled Europe. I went to Fiji. And I would just. Save up money and go on these trips.

[00:17:28] Paige Harker: And during this time, I was teaching myself how to navigate the world alone. And I was also teaching myself. I thought blogging, like I could start a travel blog about solo budget, female travel tips. And so I started a blog and was, writing all my tips about how to solo travel, how to save money.

[00:17:48] Paige Harker: And this is actually how I first started building a personal brand online. And I was teaching, I was buying courses from people, learning how to build a website. I was learning how to use Pinterest to market my business. I was learning how to, post in a way that, could build the brand, provide value.

[00:18:07] Paige Harker: And I was just like doing all this and I was still working at the restaurant and then at like before my shift, I would be doing all these blogs and these posts online in my teeny little studio, and then. Finally, it's like the, when you declare something to universe, it will respond. So I was at a point where I was like, I don't want to do the serving thing anymore.

[00:18:27] Paige Harker: I'm really only wanting to do something around this, but I don't know how to make money yet. And so there was this position I saw, and this was around before influencer marketing was really hitting, I would say this was 2016. I was, influencer marketing was a thing and I thought that's what I was going to do.

[00:18:50] Paige Harker: I thought I was going to be this like travel blogger that was going all over and staying at hotels. But I saw this position and they were looking for a full time content creator and I could work remotely. And they had said that they needed the person to have a marketing degree, like four, four year marketing degree is an essential for this position.

[00:19:09] Paige Harker: Applied, didn't hear anything back. A few months later, when I was working at the restaurant, One of these girls who was the marketing manager for that company, she said, I've been looking at you all night and wondering like, how do I know you and you're this girl? And she showed me my Instagram. And I said, yeah I'm that girl.

[00:19:29] Paige Harker: And she said, Oh my God, I love, I like, I love your work. I love all your tips and everything. And she said, I work for this company. And I said, no way. I actually applied for that company like a few months ago. Next day, get an email from the CEO. Hey, sorry. I, your email must've got lost. It did not get lost.

[00:19:49] Paige Harker: It's just because he was probably like, no, you're not qualified. You got lost. Can you please come in? Next day I came in, interview hired. And this was the trajectory of me. Going really into full time content creation, full time photography, full time, like leaving the, making the side hustle, my main thing.

[00:20:09] Paige Harker: And it was interesting because this company, they really utilized social media to Leverage with their clients that I actually use that as a mentorship. Like I got to see how they built the company online, what they were doing, what was working. And I did that. And a lot of the things they did, I started implementing into my own business.

[00:20:30] Paige Harker: And yeah, from there was a, just like a trickle into me, slowly breaking away from everything I was doing there into my own thing and just going full time into photography. 

[00:20:41] Dimple Thakrar: Wow, that just goes to show where you are, right place, right time. 

[00:20:47] Paige Harker: Absolutely. Yeah. Place, right time. And also like people will always project onto us what we can and can't do or what we need to do something, but there's always a door.

[00:20:58] Paige Harker: There's always a way there is always a possibility of potential in the field for you to have something in the most divine way that you can't even see at the time. It's just being created in the field. 

[00:21:10] Dimple Thakrar: , so this is fascinating right because there's a few things here and I want to unpick out of this story. Number one is that you never let your quote unquote lack of credentials stop you from applying to something that you know you were capable of doing.

[00:21:33] Dimple Thakrar: Number two, you set the intention in the field and you didn't worry about the way, how or what, and therefore you were an energetic match for that to arrive in the most Mysterious way, right? Place, right time, right? 

[00:21:52] Paige Harker: And isn't that interesting? This was before I even knew the work of manifestation or really the work of the science behind what we're doing when we're doing these things, but that is exactly what was happening.

[00:22:02] Dimple Thakrar: Yeah, you were an energetic man. And then the other most profound thing is that it became effortless. Look at how quickly you collapsed time around it from the moment that woman met you like You could, what if you weren't working that shift that day? What if she decided to go to a different restaurant?

[00:22:20] Dimple Thakrar: What if she didn't recognize you that day? There are so many infinite potentials that could possibly go wrong. And there were so many infinite potentials that made it right. Absolutely. Yes, absolutely. And then also you realize that it was the root of your To your apprenticeship, utilized and optimized the opportunity.

[00:22:48] Dimple Thakrar: So smart and so available to everybody. Like this blueprint. I want the audience to hear this. This blueprint is available to everybody and you were unconscious about it, but you just followed your divine intuition. Yes. And you trusted. Yes. You didn't get wrapped up in the, they've not got back to me, maybe I should chase up that, or maybe I, maybe they've lost my email.

[00:23:17] Dimple Thakrar: Maybe I, you didn't get into all of that. No, 

[00:23:21] Paige Harker: no. No, and that's also something of how I lead now. Today is I, and I know, so many people out there will say, follow up. People forget, but I truly do think that in a part of being magnetism and a part of being magnetic is if people don't follow up with you, there is a sense of desire that is missing that I think you would want to be there when someone wants to work with you.

[00:23:48] Paige Harker: And I think that for me, I intentionally, it's not that I don't value or that I'm lazy, but I really want there to be this desire because in the, what we, I will co create with someone. It has to be so desired on their end of what they're going to bring forward. And I think that this is something that we're taught is that we need to follow up.

[00:24:10] Paige Harker: We need to follow up. We need to follow up. But. In the infinite potentials, when you are the highest version of yourself, there's actually a relaxed knowing that it's coming. And when it's coming, you don't need to force what is not showing itself to be available to you. 

[00:24:29] Dimple Thakrar: This is a really interesting conversation.

[00:24:32] Dimple Thakrar: I love it because I've always had this battle with the follow up. And I've come to the conclusion that the follow up for me will only occur, so what I mean by the follow up, if somebody's reached out to want to work with me and then I don't hear from them for a while, one may think that is ghosting, one may think that they need a gentle persuasion, one may think all these things and what I have come to realize, certainly for me, is the only time I will follow somebody up is if it feels aligned. If it feels in the field they just need a little reminder because they've got busy. Yes. Sometimes that happens for me. Absolutely. And I'm grateful for that reminder. Yes. But I think the frequency in which I send that follow up. Absolutely. 

[00:25:26] Paige Harker: And I think that is again, where your intuition is so divinely orchestrating what is coming through in that follow up that it's not the energy of lack and oftentimes the follow up is led by the energy of lack.

[00:25:40] Paige Harker: Like I want to close this deal therefore. And I think people are so perceptive and so intuitive to that type of energy these days that is the difference I think between what you're saying is a follow up and what majority of people in the marketing world claim a follow up as is like close the deal reach out again for every 10 no's you'll get two yeses that type of thing and it's just like I think feel like there's another way to creation and what we desire 

[00:26:10] Dimple Thakrar: so good it's such a intro yeah It's really the difference between the frequency of lack and frequency of abundance.

[00:26:19] Dimple Thakrar: Yes. Yes. It's that. That's the juice right there. And for many of you, you won't understand the depth of that. And for many of you, you will. And for some of you, you will at the right time. It's that. The desire of the abundance of that follow up. It's not in a, it's not in a place of desperation. Yes.

[00:26:47] Dimple Thakrar: Yes. It's a place of open desire. Open desire. The door is open. And nobody's closed anything. Even the language and the frequency of the language, right? 

[00:26:58] Paige Harker: Yes. Oh, that's so powerful. Yeah. 

[00:27:01] Dimple Thakrar: And this is what I love about these conversations, that they, we speak to a realm that is not the 3D norm.

[00:27:10] Dimple Thakrar: And when you get this, it's huge. Yes. 

[00:27:18] Paige Harker: Yes. I think that where I now feel the most potent and the most powerful in what I do I truly do think that it's 90 percent energetics and 10 percent strategy. And I, and that's how I actually lead is as the work that we do with Dr.

[00:27:36] Paige Harker: Joe Dispenza, if you're going to spend 10 percent acting one way, and then you spend 90 percent of the rest of your day acting in the energetics of things, Fear, loss, lack, anxiety, then really who you are isn't shifting much. And so for me, and I know this is very hard for people to contextualize that, that don't really understand the science behind frequency, but who you are being every day.

[00:28:04] Paige Harker: There is actually a set of and if you if someone is very actionable like they need the tangible tips when you are being a certain type of way you will act a certain type of way and when all of it Is co creating like from the energetics of who you're being You, it's only a matter of time till you will get to where you want to go because you are collapsing the time and who you're being, like you're no longer the old self.

[00:28:29] Paige Harker: And so this is something I now spend most of my time when it comes to in my business or in my life. When I'm thinking of the things I want to create and I want to have is who I'm being is at the forefront. And every time I'm falling out of that frequency of the future I desire to have, I'm really getting intentional about who I'm being, because I do think that 90 percent of what we want is energetics.

[00:28:54] Paige Harker: And you can look at any successful person. I'm sure you're surrounded by them. And I've worked with many of these women at the forefront. They all have one thing in common. They hold a very high perception of themselves and that very high self image is what is allowing them to move in the way that they have.

[00:29:14] Paige Harker: And so I do believe that the image one carries of themselves moves everything else. 

[00:29:20] Dimple Thakrar: That's so good. So talk to us a little bit more. Go deeper into that if you would like. The image, what does that an actual conceptual everyday, what does that look like? How does it come across? 

[00:29:34] Paige Harker: Okay, so for me, a part of self image, and especially when it comes to creating online, like in my content strategy, I get really intentional about what is the image of myself?

[00:29:47] Paige Harker: Who do I actually think I am? Like, the future self version of me, the version that I am, the version that I'm becoming, the version that I know myself to be. How does she think and feel? And that is the only place in which I'm moving from that I know is going to get me to where I want to be. And this is something I see in common with All successful people, you go into a room with success and they all are extremely self confident and has nothing to do with how they look.

[00:30:16] Paige Harker: It's an energy. It's an energetic standard. They live by is they are very certain. That what they want is going to come to them. And I think that when someone holds that key code, they act completely differently because the person that doesn't feel worthy, they do not take action like the person that believes that they're going to get the desired circumstance they did.

[00:30:37] Paige Harker: And this is in terms of like standards and boundaries too, or even in the love that we stay in and partnership is like. When you actually feel as though you can have that complete, devoted, healthy, magnetic bond between another, you would not settle for less. And that all comes down to who do you believe yourself to be, right?

[00:30:59] Paige Harker: Because if you hold a very high image of yourself, you won't settle in all areas of your life for less. 

[00:31:07] Dimple Thakrar: So good. I want what you just said to land for people deeply. The standard by which you hold yourself in all areas of life. Is the key code to success. Yes. 

[00:31:24] Paige Harker: Yes. And that is something I feel like when people hear it, it's tangible and it lands, but isn't, it is a very different thing to walk that path because you will be initiated in so many ways to hold that standard.

[00:31:39] Paige Harker: Like even when I raised my rate. I was initiated with so many people, questioning, but I was already embodied in knowing my worth. I was already embodied in seeing that new timeline for me. And I think that you have to be so embodied. In what the standard is that anyone that questions that you're like blinded by the light of your future, that you can't even see the people that try and initiate you and take you out of that frequency, right?

[00:32:09] Paige Harker: It's like you're, and this takes practice. This takes day in and day out of really, I think that you can feel something enough times that it actually becomes who you are. And that is what mastering energetics of. Your self image is like, feel it again and again and again, and then eventually it will just be who you are.

[00:32:29] Dimple Thakrar: Yeah, because you create the neural pathways. Yes. You create the neural pathways to that new version of yourself, right? You just do the being of it and you release I sometimes say, we have a highway to the old and a dirt track to the other. And once we switch that, where the dirt track becomes the highway, and the highway becomes the dirt track to the old.

[00:32:55] Dimple Thakrar: Yes. Absolutely. It's literally that shift. And what was so interesting, and I have found this to be true, and this is the piece that I've worked on, is all areas of life, people think that if you hold an energetic standard in life, in business, But not for health or relationships or self or any of the other aspects of your life.

[00:33:23] Dimple Thakrar: It will flourish in business and it's okay. And you will to a standard, but it won't be fulfilling. It won't. And you reach a a glass ceiling. Thank you. Reach that. And you wonder why. And what I have, I experienced that. When my relationship was awful, when my health was not the best, when my confidence was low apart from at work, right?

[00:33:50] Dimple Thakrar: And it was only when I realized that I had to work on all the other stuff daily, that I hit the seven figures in business, which is really weird, right? Because I didn't do anything different. 

[00:34:03] Paige Harker: That is a very interesting phenomenon, isn't it? And I think a lot of people would be curious to learn more about that in terms of like, why is that?

[00:34:11] Paige Harker: That some people are successful in one area or they are accomplishing something but they are, not a match in the other areas, right? 

[00:34:19] Paige Harker: Yes. 

[00:34:21] Dimple Thakrar: And you see it all the time. 

[00:34:23] Paige Harker: Yes. 

[00:34:24] Dimple Thakrar: Wealthy people that are miserable. 

[00:34:26] Paige Harker: Yes. Yes. Absolutely. Yeah. And I think for me too I love materialism to a degree, but I think in this journey of falling in love with myself, what I value more than anything materialistically, Is the relationship I've cultivated with myself because I know that when my health is a priority and when I have the spiritual capacity to take care of myself physically, mentally that to me is like the most important thing.

[00:35:02] Paige Harker: There's nothing materialistic I could gain or any amount in my bank account that would amount to that relationship to self. And I think so often People will chase the materialistic way that aren't really in touch with the spiritual path yet. They will chase that, hoping that feeling they were looking for, that they were going to find it that way, only to realize that path didn't lead to the feeling that they thought they were going to find.

[00:35:28] Dimple Thakrar: Correct. And we use examples of materialistic measures because that's, that kind of wakes people up to go, Oh, hold on. Hold on, right? And yet the most profound measure is your relationship with self, is how much do you know yourself? And this is something I really admire in you Paige, is that you have devoted a life to journey.

[00:36:03] Dimple Thakrar: The way the, even when you talk today about the way that you travel yourself I didn't. I didn't know how to travel by myself until I was 47. I'd never traveled by myself, and I was scared. I'd always traveled with children or my husband or friends just to navigate that whole thing.

[00:36:25] Dimple Thakrar: So I really admire, because I learned a lot about myself in that time. Yes. 

[00:36:31] Paige Harker: Yes. I actually think too, when you travel alone, there is this sense, I recently made a post about this. People always ask me like, am I lonely? Like when I do these trips on my own am I not lonely, living in Tulum by myself?

[00:36:47] Paige Harker: But the thing is, it's we're never alone. And I think this relationship I've cultivated with our creator, with going within, with having this divine connection to source. I am always speaking to this divine intelligence. Like I will go on walks and I will just speak. And of course this is something I've cultivated and I didn't start with that when I was 20, but I think there is this sense of okay that you will develop within yourself when you travel alone.

[00:37:16] Paige Harker: Like I, I feel like that is the backbone to some of the decisions I've made even in business without. fully knowing everything. I have thought to myself I've done this. So surely I can do that. You know what I mean? And I think there's this sense of of like independence, 

[00:37:33] Dimple Thakrar: but in a way where I feel capable.

[00:37:37] Dimple Thakrar: Yes. Yeah. I feel capable. I love that. And I understand that now fully because I travel. along regularly. I literally just came back from New York and I was sat in a restaurant. Arrived in the restaurant and the the maitre d came up and said, table for two. And I said, no, table for one.

[00:37:59] Dimple Thakrar: Oh, you're on your own. I said, yes, I'm with the best company. Yes. Yes. And I sat down and then the waiter came over. He said, oh, just you. I said, absolutely me. And he said, I'll take care of you. 

[00:38:15] Paige Harker: And it's a very, it's actually, an insight into someone where there maybe is an aspect to go deeper when you can't be one with yourself.

[00:38:25] Paige Harker: When the thought of being alone is the most Terrorizing thought in your mind is anything that is gonna be you by on your own. That's where you need to go You need to go in towards that feeling because there is something very profound that you need to learn about yourself Because if we can't be alone and okay in our own company How could we allow anyone else to come in to our fields?

[00:38:53] Paige Harker: And us be able to hold our own power because we would always feel like we were in lack because there would be something we feel like we need in another that we can't be within ourselves first. 

[00:39:04] Dimple Thakrar: Huge. We are dropping so many. Golden nugget today. Huge take because it brings me on to, I've been with my beloved now 33 years, right?

[00:39:20] Dimple Thakrar: And for a lot of that time, even in my marriage, I felt alone and it was nothing to do with him. I've realized this. Quite recently, it was to do with me not knowing me. It was to do with me realizing that I was trying to get completion in with somebody else. Yes. And the completion is not with anybody else, but with myself.

[00:39:46] Dimple Thakrar: Yes. And only with myself. Can I then be in a relationship where I can articulate my needs? . And hold them. Not that he needs to provide them for me. But that this is my needs that I'm providing for me and in a relationship, these are the standards for me. I love that. And it has been, and I cannot, even this morning the conversation I've had with my beloved has been an evolution of truth.

[00:40:19] Dimple Thakrar: And I could only get to that truth. Through traveling alone. Wow. Even in a relationship, right? Especially in a relationship because it's easy to blame the other for the lack of completion in you. Yes. Yes. Oh, that's so powerful. 

[00:40:40] Paige Harker: And I think when you know yourself deeply, Everything just gets to be like, I truly do believe that everything is a mirror of especially in, I think nothing will evolve you the way partnership will, because you're going to see the reflections and mirrors of yourself that you didn't even know was still there, that was bothering you, but that person will mirror it to you, right?

[00:41:01] Paige Harker: And I think when you fully know who you are and have accepted all the realms of yourself. There is a completeness that ends up being formed within yourself and you're no longer projecting the demeanors of what you don't accept within you or you haven't found the full circle truth within you.

[00:41:19] Paige Harker: Everything else gets to be projected onto them. So that is like so powerful that you found that through traveling alone. 

[00:41:26] Dimple Thakrar: What you said right there, I had to face the thing that I didn't want to and that was being alone, physically being alone. Yeah. 

[00:41:39] Paige Harker: Isn't that interesting how the thing that we fear the most, actually when we face it and we literally just move through that feeling into its fullest depth, we release the control that feeling has on us.

[00:41:52] Paige Harker: Yeah. Yeah. And that actually is the one thing that when I talk about when I healed my body and like my gut issues and all of these things, it's interesting, even with the weight loss. Actually how I moved through a lot of that and I know this will sound very woohoo for people, but there was so much pain and anger and sadness inside of me that was energy that I was still holding on to.

[00:42:18] Paige Harker: And when I actually just sat with myself and when I felt something instead of trying Suppress it like instead of saying no, I don't want to think about that I don't want to bother it and I just sat with it and I was like, okay feel this feel it to its totality Oddly enough when you feel an emotion to its fullest being it releases It just comes and it pops out of you.

[00:42:41] Paige Harker: And this is how My god, I healed my gut issues was just really feeling everything that was there that needed to come through and I do think that the body is just holding on to Emotion and shit or shit. All the years of shit. If we haven't dealt with it, the body is holding on to it. And I don't think that all weight is physical food or exercise, all of that.

[00:43:05] Paige Harker: I think that there's a huge component of spiritual being that the body will hold on to as mass when there is something energetic sitting there. 

[00:43:15] Dimple Thakrar: 100 percent agree. Yeah. 100%. And I and it's so profound what you're saying because I agree. We hold weight when we're trying to, it can't go anywhere else.

[00:43:29] Dimple Thakrar: It's years and years of emotional shit. Yes. So the body holds on to it and expands. Yes. And I found this to be so true for me. Straight after the hysterectomy, I went into menopause and my body just expanded. Because I was holding on to the sorrow and the loss of those things. organs. Yes. 

[00:43:52] Paige Harker: Yes. And when the body doesn't feel safe in what it's feeling, it will contract.

[00:43:59] Paige Harker: It will say, okay, it's not safe. Let's hold on. Like she's in fight or flight. She's in survival. This isn't a safe time to be lean. This isn't a safe time to be free. This isn't a safe time to be lean. 

[00:44:10] Dimple Thakrar: Exactly that. And since doing the work on sitting with it and being by myself and actually claiming who I am, I've released like six kilos.

[00:44:22] Dimple Thakrar: Wow. And just doing what I love to do, eating what I love to do. Yes. Moving my body in a way that feels good. 

[00:44:34] Paige Harker: That is it. That is it. That is it. All I do now for exercise is walk and my body is staying the same. But for me, I love walking. So when you love something, the body will respond to that energetic field of what you're feeling.

[00:44:50] Paige Harker: If you don't like doing high intensity every day and every time you drag yourself to the gym, your body's saying, I really don't love this, but you're pushing it. I truly do think that's where we experience the negative results to working out. It's what is your body saying? I love, and how can you allow yourself to move in a way that the body is in love with how you're allowing it to move and for everyone that's a different story but I think that it's as simple as that like eating what you love in the way that you love it and then moving in a way that you love it and just allowing the body to stay in a frequency of homeostasis and I promise you this is the road to the body releasing what it's been holding on 

[00:45:34] Dimple Thakrar: yes it's crazy as you're saying this I'm going This is so crazy.

[00:45:41] Dimple Thakrar: I have had an internal battle with yoga for 10 years. Yoga. It's an old woman's thing. Only women with grey hair do yoga. And then I found this yoga instructor here. And she's four years older than me. She, her body is insane, the way she moves it. And she's funny as anything. And I have done for the past three months, I would say, the most consistently, yoga.

[00:46:14] Dimple Thakrar: Three months. Three months. Loved it, loved the classes, yes it's hard, loved the challenge and my, like, when I say yoga even now I'm hearing people go, yoga? Like really? It's for old ladies and the amount I have released emotionally, there have been some sessions I took some one on ones with her, the first two one on ones with her I just sat there, she moved me once and I cried.

[00:46:45] Dimple Thakrar: I literally shed and shuddered for an hour with her, and she just held me. Yeah. She just held me. Yeah. And she just said, This is exactly what your body needs. We are not making you do anything else. And I'm like, yeah, but I want to lose weight. No. Yeah. All I'm going to do is teach you how to breathe. Yeah.

[00:47:10] Paige Harker: Yeah. There's profound shifts just in, in that. Like I think it with the intuition and the body, this body of ours, it is so freaking intelligent. Like it is running off hard wire. It's running off hard wire that is smart, far more profound than anything we can read on Google, right? So when we try.

[00:47:32] Paige Harker: When we try to deny it and say, no, stop it. You don't know what you're talking about. Listen, I'm trying to tell it, but the body is always speaking through us. Like it's always saying, this is what I need. This is what I want. Can you listen? The more we can actually listen, the quicker we actually get in alignment with the being that we want to be, because we're being guided by something far more intelligent than any resource in this world.

[00:48:00] Paige Harker: Yeah, 

[00:48:01] Dimple Thakrar: it's slow down dimple stop. 

[00:48:04] Paige Harker: Yeah. Yeah. I would actually almost agree, like if a woman is a really hardworking, driven career, she's doing so much in her day mentally. She doesn't really have the capacity to be hardcore working out because her body is giving her so much 

[00:48:23] Dimple Thakrar: Yes 

[00:48:24] Paige Harker: that I think and I think this is different for men and women because we run on biological hard wire but Like really honoring the body like honoring the body.

[00:48:34] Paige Harker: I think is my number one thing I live by now, like if I have a day where my body's I just can't give you a walk I'm like no walk 

[00:48:43] Dimple Thakrar: just love you It's just lovely. I now give my body permission to nap whenever it wants to nap. And I love it! I love it! You'll find me in the garden, even in England if it's rainy.

[00:48:59] Dimple Thakrar: In the garden, in the sun chair, with the roof over and blankets. My and I have a lover. Pink pillow. Yeah. . 

[00:49:07] Paige Harker: Yeah. But since, when did that become, like, when, why do we call, why do we shame? Those things like they're essential. The more I truly do think the roadmap to getting us to where we wanna go is listening to this intelligence that runs through us.

[00:49:21] Paige Harker: I think the intuition is our connection to source and the more we can listen to it. I've never been led wrong. Like listening to this guidance. 

[00:49:30] Dimple Thakrar: Yeah. I want to say this has been an absolute privilege and honor to have this conversation today, Paige. I know that this has, we've dropped collectively so many golden, like you gifted us so many golden nuggets that everybody.

[00:49:53] Dimple Thakrar: Especially women for this one I feel has been really profound and actually for the men to understand what goes on in the divine feminine body is so profound, right? We don't do it the same way, you're right, we're not hardwired the same way. Men need to be physical in order to get to their intuition in a different pattern. It's a different physiology. It's a completely different path. And so what I would love to ask you as we complete where can people find you? 

[00:50:30] Paige Harker: I am the most active on Instagram. So my Instagram is Purpose by Page. And from there, I just have all of my offerings, all of my, resources, tips, etc.

[00:50:40] Paige Harker: from that platform, I would say.

[00:50:42] Dimple Thakrar: Okay, amazing and all your details will be in the show notes. So please go check out Paige's Instagram her content is beautiful and so inspiring and so adds so much value. I always, I watch your stuff at least three or four times because I'm like first off, I'm looking at your body.

[00:51:05] Dimple Thakrar: I'll be honest going, wow. And then I'm looking at your dog and then I'm hearing the message. Truthfully, that's what's going on. So it's usually what's happening. I don't think I have a girl crush on you. I just have true. admiration, because I understand the colds that body has been through to get to there. Ah, thank you. Finally, the question I ask all my guests is, if you could give people one piece of advice, that goes beyond the words. What would that be? 

[00:51:44] Paige Harker: I would say that one thing that has really guided me and helped me and a tangible, a tip that I could give anyone is when you are unsure or when you need help or when you are stressed out, if you can just put your one hand on your heart and close your eyes and take a few deep breaths in and out and say, what do I need right now to your body?

[00:52:10] Paige Harker: Something profound will come forward for you, whether that is a word, a message, just the peace in that moment. I have always claimed that something new for myself in doing that practice. And there are so many things we cannot avoid feeling pain or suffering or anxiety, but we can control how long we want to stay there.

[00:52:31] Paige Harker: And that practice for me has allowed me to always move into a greater version of myself. 

[00:52:37] Dimple Thakrar: I'm definitely going to try that. I love that. Thank you. Asking the body. Asking the body. And placing your hand on your heart so you connect. Yes. You love that. Paige Harker, thank you so much. for having me. It's been a privilege to have you.

[00:52:56] Dimple Thakrar: Ladies and gentlemen, this has been Beyond the Words. We've had the most incredible conversation. I'm grateful for your time, your space, your energy today in hearing and witnessing these incredible codes that we have dropped today. God bless. Thank you.