006 How Balancing Masculine & Feminine Energy Leads to Success

Hi, I'm Dimple Thakrar, and welcome back to another episode of Beyond the Words! Today, we're diving deep into a question I get asked all the time: "How do I surrender to my man?" We'll be exploring the concept of masculine and feminine energies, why understanding this balance is so crucial, and how you can use these insights not only to enhance your relationships but also to succeed in your professional life. Let's get started!

Episode Summary: 
In this episode, Dimple unpacks the powerful dynamics between masculine and feminine energies and explains how finding your authentic balance can lead to deeper connections and a thriving life. She begins by defining what these energies are: the masculine as the driving, focused force, and the feminine as the fluid, intuitive energy. Dimple uses relatable analogies, like the fluidity of water being contained by a glass, to illustrate how these energies complement one another.

She shares insights on how surrendering to your partner, particularly from a feminine perspective, doesn't mean giving up control but rather embracing trust. Through personal stories and lived experiences, Dimple explains how this understanding has helped her create a seven-figure business. By letting go of the constant hustle and instead leaning into her authentic feminine intuition, she found the freedom to attract the right opportunities and take bold, decisive actions when needed.

Dimple also speaks directly to men, encouraging them to embrace their true masculine instincts and be present in their relationships, especially during challenging times. She discusses how understanding and honoring these energies can lead to stronger, more fulfilling connections and personal growth.

Key Takeaways:

1. Understanding Energy Balance: Both men and women possess masculine and feminine energies, and finding your authentic balance can enhance your relationships and success.
2. Power of Surrender: Surrendering to your partner is not about losing control but about trusting and allowing the relationship to thrive in harmony.
3. Feminine Intuition in Business: Leaning into feminine energy can help you step back, attract the right opportunities, and know when to take action, leading to success without burnout.
4. Embrace the Masculine Instinct: Men are encouraged to trust their gut instincts, remain present during storms, and lead with confidence.
5. Apply to All Areas of Life: The principles of balance, trust, and intuition apply not only to personal relationships but also to business and professional growth.

Thank you so much for joining me on this episode of Beyond the Words. I hope you gained valuable insights on how understanding and embracing your authentic energy can lead to more fulfilling relationships and greater success. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review, sharing it with a friend, or subscribing so you never miss an update. 

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Chapters

• 0:00 00:00 - Introduction & Welcome
• 4:23 03:30 - Understanding Masculine & Feminine Energies
• 9:08 Surrendering Without Losing Control
• 13:38 Applying Energy Balance to Business Success
• 16:38 Final Thoughts & Call to Action

Transcript

Beyond the Words S2 EP06

[00:00:00] Dimple Thakrar: Hello and welcome back to Beyond the Words with Dimple Thakrar. So today, what I want to answer is a question that I get asked all the frigging time. And I'm also going to go deep into the masculine and the feminine energies, really help you understand what they are. So the question is, how do I surrender to my man?

[00:00:28] Dimple Thakrar: So before I go into that, I want to explain what the masculine and feminine is and also why surrendering to your man is so important before we go into the how. Because I talk about this a lot and I really truly know, because I've seen firsthand and I've researched it and I've lived it, that surrendering to your man is the most powerful and the most healing thing you could possibly do in your relationship. And it's the most courageous. Let's first talk about masculine and feminine energy and then I'm going to bring in the surrender piece, okay? There are two energies that we all have, irrespective of your gender. We have the masculine and the feminine energy, alright? Both of them. So I have masculine and feminine inside of me, my husband has masculine and feminine inside of him.

[00:01:36] Dimple Thakrar: The key to this is knowing what they are and knowing what your balance, your authentic balance is. Because once you are in your authentic balance, What you then attract is the opposite, right? For example, when I'm in my authentic balance, I am 70 percent feminine and 30 percent masculine. Okay, it's probably less, it's actually shifted a bit more when I feel, and the numbers are arbitrary.

[00:02:10] Dimple Thakrar: It's just really, there's no measure other than how it feels. I think more now, probably 80 percent feminine and 20 percent masculine. So what that does is, when I'm in that authentic state in my relationship, it brings out 80 percent masculine for him, 20 percent feminine. It brings out his authentic and whatever the numbers are for him, but actually it's the opposite, right?

[00:02:43] Dimple Thakrar: So what is masculine and feminine energy? Let's talk about that. Masculine energy. Is very much a feeling of doing, pushing forward, action, focus, drive. If you think about a warrior and a hunter, they are single focus, , single focused. They are moving forward. They are doing and they are chasing.

[00:03:16] Dimple Thakrar: They're going for it, right? So it's hustle energy. It's aggressive. It can be aggressive. It's Super decisive super assertive, It's confidence. It's, It's all of that, right? The feminine is the exact opposite. It's all about feelings. It's all about leaning back. It's all about understanding who she is and just her being and presence is enough to attract anything and everything. Think about it.

[00:03:56] Dimple Thakrar: Have you ever noticed a woman in a room and she walks past and she may not be like your supermodel, like perfect physique, gorgeous, like perfect everything, and she walks past and there's something about her that's so magnetic and she's super attractive and she has the most incredible smile and she walks past and it's profound, right?

[00:04:27] Dimple Thakrar: And then you have a woman who's a supermodel Everything is perfect. Her physique, her base, it's chiseled perfect, and she's just not attractive. This is how powerful the feminine energy is. That you, it's actually less of doing and more of being. And so when I say that, what I mean is The feminine is all about receiving.

[00:05:01] Dimple Thakrar: So if we think about being a mother, that is all about doing. You have to be, get the kids to school on time, you're scheduling, right? Mothering is all about being, which is leaning back, knowing, nurturing, knowing when the child needs a cuddle, feeling. So the feminine is all, the currency of the feminine is feeling.

[00:05:27] Dimple Thakrar: The currency of the masculine, sorry, is Facts. Logical. The feminine is not logical at all. It makes no sense, but it feels right. So I often use the analogy of the ocean. When we think about the ocean, it's unpredictable. It's fluid. There's movement, right? Imagine that being the feminine energy. And the masculine energy is the shore, the rocks.

[00:06:05] Dimple Thakrar: The masculine energy is the container. It's the boundaries, it's the stability, it's the consistency, it's the knowing through facts, right? Now imagine like I'm holding a glass with my vitamin C in it actually. Fluid. Looks a bit like pee but it's not, it's vitamin C. If I didn't have this container, this glass, where would my fluid be?

[00:06:38] Dimple Thakrar: All over the frigging place, right? I'm able to flow because I have a container. So the masculine is about the sides of the riverbank. It's about holding the fluid. It's about holding space. It's about providing protection, right? The masculine, protect, provide. The feminine is all about nurture. It's all about feeling.

[00:07:09] Dimple Thakrar: When we date back to cavemen times. The reason this is so is the reason that the majority of women are predominantly feminine is because we are able to heighten our senses, our feminine intuition, so that when we are gathering berries in the meadow, we know exactly which, at which point, the berry is exactly the right color for it not to be poisonous.

[00:07:41] Dimple Thakrar: We feel into our way back. We're at one with nature. The masculine warrior is all about one focus, which is to protect and then provide, bring home the hunt. So how does this translate to modern day? In a previous podcast, I've talked about how , the balance between the masculine and feminine and how that impacts your relationship.

[00:08:11] Dimple Thakrar: And so go back to that one to understand the impact. on your relationship and the demasculation and the depolarisation. Now what I want to talk about in this podcast is the whole piece on how you balance that masculine and feminine within you and how they, you can then use that in your relationship to surrender or in your relationship to build what I have now a seven figure business through my divine feminine, right?

[00:08:44] Dimple Thakrar: And here's how you do it. Firstly, in a relationship. Surrendering to your man means putting down the masculine. Lay down the tools. Lay down the shield. Lay down the weapons. What that means is, trust that he has you. There's no need for you to make all the decisions or to second guess his. There's no need for you to criticise or coach him.

[00:09:15] Dimple Thakrar: Trust. It may not be the way you would do it. Trust. I promise you, the number of times I have zipped it, and not said a word, zipped it, and the way it's turned out is far better for me, even more so than I could ever imagine. Because he gets joy when you are happy. He strives to provide even more. When he sees you happy.

[00:09:52] Dimple Thakrar: There was some research done around what is the most attractive thing for a man? Which body part is the most attractive thing for a man in a woman? And, I was quite surprised because my initial thoughts were obviously boobs, bum. And yeah, those parts are they're just delicious to look at and feel, right?

[00:10:14] Dimple Thakrar: I was The most attractive, the number one attractive thing is actually her smile. And the reason it is because when she smiles, it's an indication that she's happy. And if she's happy, she's more likely to procreate with him. Set yourselves up for success. Find happiness and joy within you. He's not responsible for your happiness, but what he can do is provide and protect in your relationship, And yes, it's chivalry.

[00:10:50] Dimple Thakrar: Yes, it's letting him make the decisions. Yes, it's letting go and surrendering control. Why? Because the power in your choosing him to protect and provide through your surrender is the power. That tells him that you trust him. Not the other way around, where he has to protect and provide before you trust.

[00:11:18] Dimple Thakrar: No, you've got to trust your intuition and your feminine intuition. If she's telling you that this man is safe right now, and the way you know that is standing in your power. It's an intuition, just like an intuition tells you if he's not. But you've got to access it in your heart, not in your head. You've got to lean back.

[00:11:42] Dimple Thakrar: And go, actually, is this man really safe? What is my intuition actually telling me? Where is the evidence that he's always protected me? He's always been there. Never let me down. Or is your intuition saying something not quite right? But the only way you'll know the truth is, and we know whether they're having affairs or any of that, we choose to ignore it.

[00:12:11] Dimple Thakrar: We also choose to ignore when we have a good man. And that's more often than the other. So what if we could lean back and start to appreciate what we have rather than look for what's not right? What if we could look for what's right? And gentlemen, what if you could decide today that storm is simply a storm and you don't know when the next storm is and you don't know when the next calm waters are, but you trust the elegance of the dance and the beauty of the ocean, the beauty of the water.

[00:12:46] Dimple Thakrar: What if you could decide That today was the day where, gentlemen, you decided you were enough. Not because of what she does or doesn't do, but because you trust your gut instinct. And what if you start to tune in more to your gut instinct and make those decisions from there? Because I tell you, there is something magical about a man's gut instinct.

[00:13:15] Dimple Thakrar: It's wild how it's almost like your barometer, and it's her barometer. Because she feels your gut instincts and she knows when you're going against your gut instinct and that's what destabilises her and makes her feel unsafe. So what if you could decide today that you're going to really honor who you are as a man and you're going to step into your masculine even more through trusting your gut instinct, through knowing when you need time out.

[00:13:46] Dimple Thakrar: And articulating that through connecting deeper with her, not running away when there's a storm, but leaning in even more, holding her with your presence, letting her know she's okay and that she's safe.

[00:14:01] Dimple Thakrar: Even when the verbal diarrhea of the storm that's coming out feels like she's attacking you, she's not. She's scared. She's fighting with herself and she needs you to be strong for her. In that moment, just like you need her to hold you and be strong. When you are having moments of processing decisions, just when you need her to be your champion, this is when she needs you to hold her.

[00:14:33] Dimple Thakrar: And ladies, what if you could trust that he's going to do it his way and that was the reason you fell in love with him in the first place? I fell in love with my man because of his absolute, I've never known it, his generosity and his ability to anticipate people's needs before then. And then I went through a period of controlling him and feeling jealous that he's, he's generous to everybody else, he's anticipating everybody else's needs, what about me?

[00:15:03] Dimple Thakrar: The moment you start with the what about me instead of the what about us, game over. When I started to remember again what it was I fell in love with at the beginning. Tony Robbins, there's a quote, he says, The reason marriages fail is because we don't treat them how we do at the beginning. If every day we treated them as we do with the beginning, excited to see them, not expecting or assuming, just grateful for whatever, switch your expectation for appreciation.

[00:15:41] Dimple Thakrar: And it works both ways. And knowing that you have a part to play just as much as them. So this is the surrender game. It's actually powerful. Your power, my ladies, is in the choosing to surrender. to your feminine intuition. And this is exactly how I created a seven figure business. I stopped hustle. I stopped pushing and I leaned back.

[00:16:12] Dimple Thakrar: I leaned back to the surrender, to the trusting that if it felt icky in my body and I was pushing, I was hustling. I actually create more resistance in the field. Whereas this way, leaning back, surrendering, I attract all the right stuff and I know when to reach out, I know when to move forward, I know when to use my 20 percent of my masculine and when to reserve my energy.

[00:16:46] Dimple Thakrar: For a man, he's born to be in his masculine. He has I don't know the exact number, 50 percent more testosterone. That's all the fighting doing. So he's designed to do and be for you. He's designed to open the door for you. He's designed to carry the bags. That doesn't mean you take it for granted. What it means is you appreciate the efforts and the energy and you acknowledge.

[00:17:15] Dimple Thakrar: The gratitude and you receive it with grace, not guilt.

[00:17:21] Dimple Thakrar: And that my beautiful dears is the how to surrender. It's really quite simple. Be open to receiving, know that it's your birthright to receive and gentlemen, know that you are stronger and enough more than you ever know right now. But what if you could spend a day believing it fully? That you are enough just by being your true, masculine, gut driven, beautiful man.

[00:18:01] Dimple Thakrar: You can hold the storm. You can navigate every storm. Because every time you do, the reason there are storms is so that you expand. That's the truth. We test you so that you grow. This is the elegant dance, until it doesn't become or feel like a storm, but more like a conversation. More like an appreciation and an acknowledgement of each other's fears and worries, and championing each other when you need it the most.

[00:18:39] Dimple Thakrar: And the same goes for business. Thank you so much for your time. It's been an honour and privilege to share this time with you today. God bless.